All of our story posts to date have been a review of A.J.’s history, how
he came to live with us (his Nanna and Poppy), why he received a late Autism
diagnosis, and most of all the experiences we have faced during his educational
journey.
The reason
A.J.’s history is so hard to fathom, even now so long after the events, from
being removed from his mother’s care due to her drug related issues and
neglect, factors that are still so raw for us all today, facing the realisation
of being left in an unimaginable situation by those that knew and turned a
blind eye, until we were notified to take care of him.
Faced with the reality of our life, so many are
stunned and speechless to fathom the extent of the situation, questioning why
we would go down this path at all, or at minimal how do we do it. It was never a question to us.
‘Family is Family’ regardless and any innocent
child deserves the very best chance for a normal life……It’s that simple!!!
I will not
make any excuses for stating these facts, as I personally spent almost 6 years
trying to work together with these parties supporting the connection and
contact in the hopes of a positive outcome, finally deciding that A.J.’s
welfare was more important.
We now face
the reality of no contact from that area at all; other than his two half-siblings
who are still so important to him (as he is to them) and their bond will always
be special.
While coming to terms with the enormity of all
that we have gone through and everything that has happened, we accepted the
realisation of not needing to please others and just be happy in our own
decisions, for our own reasons, to stress less about what others think and take
the steps we want to take, without allowing judgement of others to deter us.
If they wish to allow their lives be wasted
watching and judging us (or others) without knowing the real story and all the
facts, then that is their loss of life.
We faced these situations on our own with no
form of external assistance or help, we did this because of the love we have
and our giving nature.
Over the years we have continually dedicated our
time and support, helping others in need, giving before taking; a concept many
cannot grasp or understand.
Unfortunately at times I have personally faced
those that have taken advantage of my giving nature for their own greed, and
then expressing their negativity when I pulled away after the realisation of
their betrayal and deception, then showing their personality for what it is.
These people have never stopped me, as
disappointing and hurtful as they have been, I still hope to see the good in
most people and share my support to them.
I’m sorry I
have begun ranting just a bit, although as you may tell, the passion I have is
understandable.
I know I
may get some flak for these comments from different sectors, although the reality
of our situation is more than just stating “everyone deserves a second chance”,
I agree a second, but after a third and fourth and fifth, when do you say ‘ENOUGH!!!!’
We have
moved on from this and can now say to date we have come full circle and are
pleased with the outlook for A.J.’s future, I have learnt so much and gained
strength along the way, this helped in my decision to begin the new journey of
giving back and this was when ‘Nanna’s
Touch’ was formed, on the spirit of giving, using my facebook pages,
website, and here, to share my story and research information, to help others
find their “light at the end of the
tunnel” and with the sales of my sensory products I hope to not only ‘ease the
burden’ of our own financial commitments, I will also finance the progress of our
local Autism Support Group.
Please continue to follow our story as I share the highs and
lows and most of all hope for the best outcome for all our little ones.
Connections through –
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